“The new father is not so shallow nor so old fashioned. Only the truly lost man would want to return to his grandfather’s way of life. Who would want to go back to the bad food, the boring sex, the isolation? Who would want to be financially responsible for a family and then never see them? The new fatherhood is a huge gain for men, the chance for a deeper intimacy, a whole new range of pleasures and agonies, a fuller version of our humanity.”
“The problem isn’t bullying coaches. The problem is all the men who aren’t coaching. The problem isn’t the various inevitable failures of the men who show up. The problem is the men who don’t show up.”
“The new fatherhood requires intelligence. It requires judgment. The new fatherhood is messy. It will have to be.”
All the quotes are from Stephen Marche in the June/July 2014 “Fatherhood” issue of Esquire Magazine.