Do You Cheer For Your Kid’s First Name Or Last Name

  • Academics, athletics, the arts, relationships, learning to walk / talk, etc.
  • We all watch our child “perform” in numerous ways.
  • When you watch your child perform, are you cheering for their first name or their last name to succeed?
  • If you’re cheering for their last name, you may be making their success your success. And their failure your failure. That’s dangerous.
  • Cheering for their first name makes their success their own. That’s healthy.
  • If you’re not sure who you’re cheering for, ask your child. They know.
(I wish I could remember who introduced me to this idea. Whoever you are, the credit is yours.)

Never Ever Ever Never Talk Bad About Your Wife

  • Never ever ever never talk bad about your wife in front of someone else.
  • Never make a joke about your wife or make yourself sound better than her.
  • It doesn’t matter if you’re right.
  • Your kid is listening to you. What you say turns into what they say.
  • And what you say becomes what you believe.
  • You are giving your child (and your wife) a gift by only speaking positive words about her.

One Way To Help Your Kid When They’ve Had A Bad Day

  • Your kid is going to have a bad day. Probably more than one.
  • Those bad, unfair, crappy days create all kinds of emotions in your kid.
  • A great way to let them get their emotions out is to roll the car windows down (while you’re driving) and let them yell out the window.
  • Let them yell as loud as they want. Let them yell what they want…within reason.
  • You should yell with them.
  • There’s a good chance you’ll end up laughing…or crying…after all the yelling.

(Thanks to my wife for the idea of letting our kids yell out the car window when they have a bad day.)

Help Make Back To School Successful

  • Make sure your child knows you love them, believe in them, and are cheering for them this school year.
  • Pray out loud with your child about their friends, teachers, school work, recess, bus ride, homework, locker, _____ (whatever they’re nervous about), etc.
  • Drive your child to school if it’s possible.
  • Ask specific questions about how their day went. Avoid “yes” and “no” questions.
  • Help them with homework.
  • Give them some down time after school. Remember, school is their version of work.