Why We Asked People To Be Our Daughter’s Friend

  • My daughter turned 13 years old earlier this year.
  • I’d like to believe that my wife and I will have the most influential voice in her life through her teen years. We know that won’t always be true, though.
  • We asked three cool, mature, awesome, fun, wise women to add their voices to her life.
  • One is in her 20s. One is in her 30s. And one is in her 50s. We have the 40s covered.
  • We’ve asked these women to do four things between now and the time our daughter graduates high school:
    • Build a relationship with her.
    • Spend one-on-one time with her.
    • Talk to her about things that matter: friends, faith, finances, family, authority, modesty, boys, etc. (they can’t all start with “f”).
    • Be available to her when she wants to connect with them.

If Your Child Is Old Enough To Talk, Make Dinner Time Matter

  • Dinner time can be more than just a time to eat together.
  • Give everyone a chance to talk about their day.
  • See where your family takes the conversation.
  • Focus and listen.
  • Ask specific questions about their day.
  • Look for things to follow up on later in the evening when you can be one-on-one.

Family Time Versus One-On-One Time

  • You have a limited amount of time to spend with your family.
  • Should you spend one-on-one time with your child or should you spend time together as a family?
  • The ideal answer is both. But reality often forces you to choose.
  • When you have to choose, choose one-on-one time.
  • One-on-one time speaks directly to your child: I want to be with you. I love you. I like you. I value you.
  • Of course, family time is valuable too.
  • One-on-one time has a greater return on investment.

What To Ask For This Father’s Day

  • Father’s Day is coming! That means you will probably be proclaimed as the World’s Best Dad on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc. Congratulations!
  • Father’s Day gifts range from funny to sweet to awesome to, well, not-so-awesome.
  • What if you told your family to not get you a gift for Father’s Day this year?
  • What if you told them you want to spend one-on-one time with your child and wife this Father’s Day?
  • No mug. No tie. No round of golf. No t-shirt.
  • What if you hung out with your child and with your spouse instead of receiving a gift?
  • It could be the gift you actually like…and cherish…for years to come.