What Do You Not Want Your Child To Find Out About?

  • What do you do that you would prefer no one find out about?
  • Things kept in the dark are dangerous for you and your child.
  • Things kept in the dark control you.
  • “It won’t hurt anyone as long as they don’t find out.” is a lie.
  • The sooner you bring what you’re doing to the light, the less consequences there will be.

The Top 3 Things To Do With Your Child Under The Of Age Five

  • Talk to your child…about things they care about and things you want them to care about.
  • Play with your child…do things they want to do.
  • Spend time with your child…run errands, watch TV, do yard work, take a ride, chase a hot air balloon…together.
  • Spoiler alert…these three things never really change as they get older.

The Difference Between Being Responsible For Your Child And Taking Responsibility For The Relationship With Your Child

  • You are responsible for your child. You kinda have to be…legally speaking. You provide food, shelter, and clothing for them.
  • We even pat ourselves on the back when we’re extra responsible for our child…we provide a nice yard, camp, experiences, electronics, nice clothes, etc.
  • But do you take responsibility for the relationship with your child?
  • What are you doing to grow the relationship between the two of you?
  • What conversations are you having to better your relationship with them?
  • If you don’t take responsibility for the relationship, they won’t. They’re a child.

Help Your Child Play More

  • For an adult, work is our work.
  • For a child, play is their work.
  • Work is important for all people…it’s how we feel accomplishment, it’s how we learn, it teaches us responsibility, it builds self-esteem, etc.
  • Help your child play more…by themselves and with others.
  • Your child isn’t just playing; they’re working.