Your Child Will Never Be Thankful Unless…

  • …they feel like you are thankful.
  • Do you talk about (not just think about) all the things you’re thankful for?
  • Do you say “Thank you.” a lot?
  • If the answer is “Yes!”, then your child has a good shot of being thankful.
  • Dads should be thankful for the significant and the insignificant things.
  • Dads should be thankful for the meaningful and the meaningless things.
  • A dad’s unique perspective on life, family, work, etc. should make him the most thankful person in his child’s life.

When Should You Have The Sex Talk With Your Child

  • Don’t have “the talk.” Have an ongoing conversation about sex with your child.
  • When do you begin this conversation? When your child is ready. Not when you’re ready. That means you need to be ready waaaaaay before you want to be ready.
  • The conversation should progress as they are ready for it. Only give your child as much information as they’re wanting.
  • We started the conversation with our daughter when she was in the 1st grade. Yep, first grade…thanks to a kid in our neighborhood who liked to say the word “sex” a lot.
  • Our daughter is now in the 8th grade and we just continue the conversation when we need to. We’ve had a lot of conversations along the way.
  • Here’s a page full of resources from the middle school ministry of our church.

Do You Know What It’s Like Being A ___ Year Old?

  • What’s it like to be a ___ [insert your child’s age] year old?
  • Have you ever put yourself in their shoes and wondered why they react the way they do, why they say what they say, why they make the decisions they make, why they feel the way they feel, etc.?
  • One of the greatest skills we can develop as a dad is empathy.
  • Empathy is not feeling what your child is feeling.
  • Empathy is understanding what your child is feeling.
  • Regardless of the age of your child, practice empathy…especially when tension is high.

The One Thing That Produces The Results We Want

  • Whether you realize it or not, you have a picture in your mind of how you want your child to turn out.
  • How will you get the results you want?
    • provide a certain lifestyle
    • make sure they receive a good education
    • give them specific experiences and opportunities
  • We often think our actions will provide the results we want.
  • The one thing that will give us the results we want is a relationship.
  • Your relationship with your child will trump your actions toward your child.
  • Actions do not produce the best results.
  • Relationships produce the best results.