How To Teach Your Son He Is A Stud

  • A stud is a guy who is strong and kind. That’s my definition.
  • If your son is too strong, he could be a bully. Boys who are bullies turn into men who are bullies.
  • If your son is too kind, he could be a pushover. Boys who are pushovers turn into men with no direction.
  • Help your son become and stay strong…
    • physically (Strength – He uses his muscles.)
    • mentally (Wise – He knows the right thing to do and does it.)
    • emotionally (Stability – He’s never too up and never too down.)
    • spiritually (Faith – He believes God will do what He says He will do.)
  • Teach him to be kind with his words and actions. Kindness is more than being nice. Kindness involves telling the truth and helping others be better.
  • A dad’s words are empowering to his son for years to come. Tell him things like “I’m proud of you when _____.” and “I believe you can do it.” Pray for him (out loud in front of him) to be a strong and kind person.
  • Most of all…model for your son how to be a strong and kind man.
  • If you have a daughter, I wrote something for you last week.

How To Teach Your Daughter She Is Beautiful

  • We dads know that beauty is more than appearance…but appearance matters a lot to your daughter. That’s just a reality.
  • She will view beauty as how she looks on the outside. So point out specific ways she is beautiful on the outside. Yes, compliment her face, hair, body, clothes, etc.
  • A dad has the power to help her believe that beauty really is more about who she is…the kind of person she is on the inside.
  • Point out specific ways she is beautiful on the inside. Use words like “beautiful” and “gorgeous” to brag on her personality, attitude, faith, decision-making ability, the kind of friend she is, etc.
  • You will shape your daughter’s definition of “beautiful.”
  • Over and over and over and over, tell her how beautiful she is on the outside…but mostly how beautiful she is on the inside.

“If it’s not a HECK YES, then it’s a no.”

  • Julie shared some words from Jen Hatmaker with me, and I had to share them with you. Below is some of what she wrote.
  • “If you want to make good decisions for you and your family, you need a decision-making filter that prioritizes your actual life and keeps you focused on the things that matter the most.”
  • How about this filter: “If it’s not a HECK YES, then it’s a no.”
  • “So that medium yes, that I-feel-like-I-should yes, that guilty yes, that coerced yes, that I-actually-hate-this-thing yes, that I-guess-so yes, that who-else-will-do-it yes, that careless yes, that default yes, that resentful yes, that I-probably-shouldn’t-but-struggle-with-boundaries yes? NO. Nope.”
  • “Now, the things that make your heart race, your blood pump, the fire in your belly burn, your gifts to leap to life, and keep your family and home healthy and strong…the heck yeses? ALL IN, BABY.”
  • It’s okay to say “No.” to some of those big and small decisions you have to make for you and your child and family. “No.” is the best answer sometimes.