Stop Giving 100% At Work

  • Every morning, you wake up with 100% of yourself to give away. Nothing more. Nothing less.
  • As you go throughout your day, you give yourself (your energy and attention) away.
  • When you reach 100%, you’re done. That’s when you start to fake your energy and attention. Every dad knows what that feels like.
  • We dads must develop the skill of bringing some of our energy and attention home every day.
  • Your child deserves more than your fake energy and fake attention.
  • Save some of yourself for where you will get the greatest results from your energy and attention…at home.
  • Your only unique role in life is the role you have with your child. You must give them some of your genuine energy and attention every day.

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You May Be A Helicopter Parent If…

  • Just in case you are not familiar with the term…a “helicopter parent” is a dad who hovers around / above / next to / their child. My definition.
  • You might be a helicopter dad if you…
    • try to protect your child from every possible risk.
    • are overly interested in every single detail of their life.
    • are involved in every part of their life.
    • view your child as your best friend.
    • cannot let them out of your sight.
    • will not let other adults influence your child.
    • try to resolve every problem / challenge for them.
    • (or someone else) notice your child having ongoing anxious thoughts / feelings.
    • make every decision for your child.
  • So what do you do if you’re a helicopter dad? Stop it! Ok, maybe it’s not that simple.
  • Ask another dad to help you. Give them permission to tell you when you’re hovering.
  • Take a deep breath, then take one step back. Slowly…one step at a time…stop hovering. Allow them to take risks, make decisions, etc.

How To Talk To Your Child About Terrorism

  • Terrorism will never go away.
  • At some point, your child will hear about an act of terrorism. They may learn about 9/11 in school. Or they will see images of bloody or dead bodies, explosions, or first responders helping victims online or on TV.
  • Be comfortable talking to your child about the bad things that happen in our world.
  • It’s important for your child to hear from you…
    • People make unwise and bad decisions.
    • People make decisions to hurt other people.
    • Every person (including you and them) is capable of making bad decisions that hurt people.
    • They need to decide to love other people…just like you have.
    • It’s okay to disagree with people.
    • Just because you disagree with someone does not mean you are against them.
    • All people are valuable.
  • When terrorism does happen, help your child understand…
    • It’s okay to be sad.
    • It’s okay to ask questions.
    • It’s okay to not understand the whole situation.
    • It’s good to pray.
    • Find strength in their faith and in their relationships with others.
    • God gives us hope even in bad times.

Are You Sacrificing Your Child For Your Image?

  • We care about our image. We want people to view us in a favorable way. There’s nothing wrong with that.
  • But we can take our image too far. We can care too much about how others view us. Would others…your child…say you spend too much time or money on or experience too much stress concerning your image?
  • Do you care too much about your…
    • physical image (your clothes, your body, chasing trends, etc.)
    • social image (trying to be cooler or younger or richer or…)
    • emotional image (the appearance of perfection and control, got it all together)
    • spiritual image (you have no questions and no doubts)
    • family image (we’re a happy family all the time)
  • Chasing an image sets you up for failure. Every time you think you’ve achieved the image you want, the image you want changes. And you’re slowly telling yourself that you’re not good enough.
  • Chasing an image sets your child up for failure. It takes your time and attention away from your child…the two things they need the most from you. And it teaches them to not be happy and content with who they are.
  • Get better. Live your life in a way that causes others to view you in a favorable way. But be content. Be the best version of you…not someone else.