The 3 Things You Must Do With Your Kid Under The Age Of 5

  • Talk to your child…about things they care about and things you want them to care about.
  • Play with your child…do things they want to do.
  • Spend time with your child…run errands, watch TV, do yard work, take a ride, chase a hot air balloon…together.
  • Spoiler alert…these three things don’t really change as they get older.

Being Responsible For Your Child Versus Taking Responsibility For Your Relationship With Your Child

  • You are responsible for your child. You kinda have to be…legally speaking. At least for 18 years or so. You provide them with food, shelter, clothing, etc…the necessities.
  • You (me too) even pat yourself on the back (post about it on social media / remind them when they’re in trouble) when you’re extra responsible for your child…you provide a nice yard, send them to camp, pay for an amazing experience, buy them the latest electronics, dress them in really nice clothes, etc.
  • But do you take responsibility for your relationship with your child?
  • What are you doing to grow the relationship between the two of you?
  • What conversations are you having to better your relationship with them?
  • None of the extra stuff lasts. Actually, most of it will be forgotten.
  • Your relationship (or lack of relationship) with your child will last for decades.
  • If you don’t take responsibility for the relationship, they won’t. They’re a child.

Dads Thrive At Work But Survive At Home And How To Fix That

  • Too many of us dads put in more effort at work than we do at home. Not good. But it makes sense. Work is easier for us.
    • We get desirable results fast at work.
    • We get short-term wins at work.
    • We get less honest feedback at work.
    • We get training and development at work.
  • The opposite is true at home:
    • We have to wait (maybe years) for results.
    • The wins come after a lot of effort and time.
    • We get honest, real-time feedback at home.
    • We’re never truly prepared for being a dad at any stage.
  • How can you fix this? How can you thrive at home too?
    • Save some of your energy for home.
    • Have a plan at home.
    • Set goals for home.
    • Get some training or mentoring from another dad.
  • You will be replaced at work. You can never be replaced in your role as dad.

It Should Be Easy To Be Your Kid

  • It should not be difficult to be your child…regardless of the age of your child.
  • What pressure does your child feel from you?
  • What spoken and unspoken expectations do you place on your child?
  • Do your words build them up or tear them down?
  • Do your actions set them up for success or failure?
  • Do you frustrate your child?
  • It should be easy to be your child.
  • The answers to these questions determine your present and future relationship with your child.