Dear Dad Who Is Thinking About Leaving His Family

  • Please don’t leave.
  • Fight for your marriage…even if you don’t want to fight for it. Don’t walk away even if she’s changed, if sex is non-existent, if you’re attracted to someone else, etc.
  • The love, the attraction, the desire, the friendliness, the feelings, the sex, etc. can come back.
  • If your wife won’t work on “us,” go work on you. Work on you even if she is willing to work on “us.”
  • If you leave, you will negatively affect your kid. You will affect…
    • how your kid sees herself/himself.
    • your kid’s current and future relationships.
    • how your kid perceives their¬†abilities.
    • what motivates your kid.
    • the commitments your kid does and does not make.
    • how your kid relates to men.
    • your relationship with them for years to come.

Just Saying Your Family Is Your Priority Does Not Make It True

  • How’s 2018 going so far? We dads are always looking to start the new year feeling good about ourselves.
  • So we…or maybe it’s just me…declare things like, “My family is going to be my priority.”
  • This year, try something different. Stop saying that.
  • This year…throughout the year, ask your wife and kid if they feel like they are your priority.
  • How they feel matters more than what you say.
  • Stop feeling good about yourself just because you’re saying the right thing.
  • Win this year! Make sure your family feels like they are your priority.

Whatever You Do In 2018, Do Less

  • Your company, HOA, church, family, club, school, etc. will do¬†more in 2018. They will add to what they’re already doing. And they will not stop doing anything. It’s what we all naturally do.
  • Doing more and more makes you feel like you’re accomplishing something. And it makes you look normal.
  • Doing more and more really just makes you busier. You’re just doing more on top of what you were already doing.
  • Decide to do less in 2018!
  • Do less in your own life. Simplify. Focus. Stop. Say no.
  • Help your child do less. They do not have to be signed up for something.
  • Help your family do less. Make sure you have time that is not scheduled.