You are responsible for your child. You kinda have to be…legally speaking. At least for 18 years or so. You provide them with food, shelter, clothing, etc…the necessities.
You (me too) even pat yourself on the back (post about it on social media / remind them when they’re in trouble) when you’re extra responsible for your child…you provide a nice yard, send them to camp, pay for an amazing experience, buy them the latest electronics, dress them in really nice clothes, etc.
But do you take responsibility for your relationship with your child?
What are you doing to grow the relationship between the two of you?
What conversations are you having to better your relationship with them?
None of the extra stuff lasts. Actually, most of it will be forgotten.
Your relationship (or lack of relationship) with your child will last for decades.
If you don’t take responsibility for the relationship, they won’t. They’re a child.
All transitions…including the back to school transition…create some level of pain for someone. Back to school may be painful for your child…you…your spouse…all of you. That’s normal.
Us dads offer a different kind of voice in each transition…including back to school. Make sure your voice is heard during this transition.
How can you make back to school as painless as possible…for all of you?
Choose a good attitude about your child going back to school, their teacher, their classmates, etc. Your child will pick up on and play off of your attitude.
Over-communicate how much you believe in your child’s ability to learn and be a great friend to their classmates.
Make sure your child knows you love them and are cheering for them this school year.
Pray out loud with your child about their friends, teachers, schoolwork, recess, bus ride, homework, locker, _____ (whatever they’re anxious about), etc. Don’t worry about praying out loud…you can’t mess it up.
Celebrate your child going back to school. Get some ice cream, go to dinner, buy a cake, throw some confetti…do something fun!
And if the back to school transition causes you a lot of pain, remember, football season is almost here!