We have three kids. Two know. Our youngest believes.
What do you do when one kid knows about Santa and the other believes in Santa? Here are 2 ideas…
Have fun with it. Let the kid who knows have fun being in on it. Let them give input on some Santa gifts and/or pick out some candy for the stockings. When Santa comes up in conversations, give them a wink.
Use it as an opportunity to teach responsibility. The kid who knows now has a big responsibility. They know a big secret that is okay to keep. Help them understand why they should not tell their sibling. Make them feel like a big-shot for handling this responsibility well.
Q: Why does the Christmas season feel more stressful than other times of the year?
A: You have less margin (free space) in your schedule, finances, patience, etc.
Less Margin = More Stress
Want some ways to make this Christmas less stressful?
Do some things for your wife that you normally do not do…shop, bake, plan, etc. Reducing your spouse’s stress will reduce your stress.
Spend the majority of your time with your family. Schedule time to do things with just your family…look at Christmas lights, stay home and watch a Christmas movie, stay home and do nothing, play together, go to a movie, etc.
Spend less money. It’s possible.
Don’t say yes to every invitation you receive. They’ll still be your friend after the holidays.
Keep up your healthy habits…exercise, eat well, read, sleep, etc.
Your kid is sitting in the dirt playing with rocks or…watching Netflix or…playing backyard football in the rain or…FaceTiming with a friend or…doing homework or…
How do you know if you’re being a successful dad?
If you define success one of these ways, you’re not going to be successful:
Your kid is happy. If your kid’s emotions determine your success, well, good luck with that.
Your kid has more than you did when you were young. Whenever stuff is your measure of success, you will never have enough stuff.
Your kid gets to experience everything that comes their way. Experiences are great and often create memories. But too many experiences can create kids who do not know how to be content with normal life.
Your kid tries to be perfect. When your goal is an imaginary goal, you will miss it every time.
If you define success one of these ways, you’re going to be successful:
Your kid is living out the values you fight for in your family.
Your kid is moving towards independence when they reach 12th grade.
Your kid is not stressed out by the pressures of school, athletics, relationships, creative arts, work, home life, etc.